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Busting the Myths About Domestic AbuseView
When it comes to domestic abuse, there are many dangerous myths that can seep like a poisonous gas throughout society. It matters that we set the record straight. We believe the truth can set people free as we open the world's eyes to the reality of abuse. "Those Women"Myth: Domestic …
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Domestic Abuse and the Cost of Living CrisisView
As I write, the latest headlines put inflation at 10.1% and the country is bracing itself for energy price hikes. The Mayor of London is warning of an increase in violence, Gordon Brown has described the situation as a crisis on the scale of the Covid epidemic and Martin Lewis, …
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Domestic abuse and divorce: What does the Bible say?View
You may have heard teaching in churches or from some Christian leaders that divorce is completely unacceptable, no matter what the circumstances. But for those living in situations of domestic abuse, this teaching can add to the trauma, making freedom seem impossible or making them feel they have to choose …
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'The Bible Doesn't Tell Me So': An interview with Helen PaynterView
She knew certain passages would appear. She could imagine the sort of verses that abusers might use to justify their actions and manipulate their partner. But on speaking to survivors, Helen Paynter found that there were even more biblical texts being twisted so far from their meaning than she expected …
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'Good' control?View
I was asked a question the other day: 'How can you tell the difference between good control in a relationship and control that’s got out of hand and become abusive?'Our director, Bekah, shares her response to that question, what she wished she'd added, and whether there's ever such a thing …
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The cycle of abuseView
cycleˈsʌɪk(ə)l/nouna series of events that are regularly repeated in the same order. — — In 1979, Lenore E. Walker coined the term ‘The Cycle of Abuse’. This is a theory that proposes that abusive relationships often follow a similar pattern.Obviously, all relationships are unique to each couple involved so this …
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Spiritual AbuseView
Spiritual AbuseMany survivors of domestic abuse have also experienced spiritual abuse, this may have been perpetrated by their spouses or by church leaders or members.CCPAS (an Independent Safeguarding Christian charity in the UK) has produced papers and pamphlets on this topic.In their pamphlet entitled, I Want to Understand Spiritual Abuse …
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Power And Control: Why Charming Men Can Make Dangerous LoversView
Power And Control: Why Charming Men Can Make Dangerous LoversBy Sandra Horley (1991)Sandra Horley has worked with Refuge, the UK's women’s shelter charity, for many years, and has spoken with and listened to over 3,000 women about their experiences of abuse by husbands and partners.In this book, the author outlines …
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First Man Standing Bible StudiesView
At Restored, we're passionate that men can and should be active in standing against domestic abuse. That's why we've produced the First Man Standing Bible Studies, to help men explore what the Bible has to say about masculinity, relationships, and how we can be active in challenging violence against women.This …
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Unholy Charade - Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the ChurchView
Unholy Charade makes for uncomfortable reading. That is intentional. Over thirty years as a pastor in the USA, and many hours spent with the victims and survivors of domestic abuse, Jeff Crippen has a wealth of wisdom and experience to share.The book opened my eyes to the horror of life …
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Coercive ControlView
A new Domestic Violence Law came into effect on December 29th, 2015. The Coercive Control offence carries a maximum penalty of five years imprisonment and a fine and can be invoked if a victim suffers serious alarm or distress that impacts their day-to-day activities or if they fear violence on …
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Why Does He Do That? - Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling MenView
Why Does He Do That? - Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling MenBy: Lundy Bancroft, 2003Why Does He Do That? has become the most read book in the US on abusive relationships. The author, Lundy Bancroft, has spent the last 17 years of his career specializing in domestic abuse …
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Daily wisdom from Why Does He Do That?View
(By Lundy Bancroft, 2015)‘Living with an angry, controlling, or unfaithful partner is like being wrapped up in a tangle of a dozen different strands of rope’.This book is about helping you untangle the different strands of rope by providing short daily readings each with a focus on a particular theme:Clarity …
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First Man Standing has been launched - sign up now!View
Restored launches 'First Man Standing'. The launch of First Man Standing took place on Saturday 25 June. First Man Standing is an opportunity for men everywhere to be the first in their family, club, church or workplace to stand up and speak out about building strong relationships and ending violence …
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Don't hit my MumView
25 November is the international day for the elimination of violence against women (VAW) and starts 16 days of activism against gender violence around the world. The day provides a unique opportunity each year to raise the profile of VAW issues in the media. A documentary programme on BBC television …