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'Good' control?View
I was asked a question the other day: 'How can you tell the difference between good control in a relationship and control that’s got out of hand and become abusive?'Our director, Bekah, shares her response to that question, what she wished she'd added, and whether there's ever such a thing …
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A light to the Tamil communityView
Light is a powerful symbol. Particularly as winter nights creep in earlier and earlier, we appreciate the comforting glow of a candle and are drawn to the twinkling beauty of Christmas lights on houses.We spoke to Agal Counselling who are shining a light of hope in South Asian communities through …
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How much do you know about abuse? Take our quiz!View
What do you already know? What do you have still to learn?We all have blind spots, we all have gaps in our knowledge, and we're all still learning. Take our eight question quiz to discover how much you already know about domestic abuse, and hopefully learn something new along the …
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Where you go, I will go: Naomi and RuthView
'The book of Ruth might have been written by a man, but what shines through in this book is the commitment and determination of the women. It's not a story where women take a backseat; Naomi risks everything leaving her home to go to Moab, whilst Ruth risks leaving her …
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Gift of hope: a survivor's storyView
'On the day I left, when I sought refuge, there was not one available space nearby. Refuges are underfunded, under resourced and under-staffed. Abused and often very disturbed women are wandering around without purpose. It is so tragic that when they have been through so much and been so brave, …
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Let justice rollView
May we not remain silent at the cry of the oppressed but instead jump into the river of justice and be part of the streams of righteousness. I find myself in the waiting room of a court house, not those grand buildings you might see on TV but a 1970s …
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The Cycle of AbuseView
cycleˈsʌɪk(ə)l/nouna series of events that are regularly repeated in the same order. — — In 1979, Lenore E. Walker coined the term ‘The Cycle of Abuse’. This is a theory that proposes that abusive relationships often follow a similar pattern.Obviously, all relationships are unique to each couple involved so this …
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What are the passages that an abuser doesn’t want their victim to read?View
GUEST BLOG: Helen Paynter looks at some key passages from the Bible relating to domestic abuse.In February 2019, I received an email from someone I had never met. We’ll call her Jenny. Jenny had heard me speaking on a series of podcasts produced by the Bible Society, talking about some …
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What does the Bible say about violence in relationships?View
It is crucial that two people feel safe within a relationship. I’ve recently gotten into ‘Married At First Sight’, a show about couples who enter an experiment, choosing to get married without ever having met their bride/groom. The participants, effectively, choose an arranged marriage. Their trepidation grows as their wedding …
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Why doesn't she leave? - Christine's StoryView
I'd run out of ideas. I had tried everything I could think of to fix my marriage. Counselling, marriage courses, trying to be the perfect wife, talking, listening, serving, praying, crying, trying to accept, brainwashing myself to like this life, losing myself in the kids... I was miserable, scared, lonely, …